The first and most important love advice is to know how to listen.
the best love advice is to understand the difference between hearing and listening.
One of the most difficult activities to understand in life is to know how to listen and for that,the first we must learn is to BE QUIET.
Hearing has never been the same than listening, although I have to say that many people think that they are the same because they don’t understand that the ability of hearing is natural and has to be re-discovered and developed.
When hearing, you use your auditory system to receive the signal from outside to inside.(I say inside because our body emits signals that are heard or listened).
On the contrary, listening is a more complex process than the simple fact of hearing a signal,it is an activity that requires to be present and conscious in front of the speaker. This way, we can communicate, give and receive what really matters.
To listen actively is the core of all human interactions.
There are many words that are related to the definition of listening actively and they are the following:Receiving, interpreting, analyzing, protecting, acting
These are the words that make listening to be active and most importantly love advice.
Now, Why do we listen?
We must listen in order to have access to the information that is outside and within ourselves and that way to work the best way possible. We need the ability of listening actively to establish relationships with the others.
To work correctly with our environment, we must understand and “know” people, their thoughts and emotions. By listening we can help others to solve a problem and that way learn from their discoveries so we can solve later our own problems in a good way.
Early in life we recognize the tones of voice in people; that way we know when they are angry, happy, tired, sad … This information gives us the possibility to adapt our answer and be more effective.
Listening requires a certain amount of evaluation from our side, so we can listen the words and ideas with no need to accept them all.
Listening also is a way to recognize the other person through an active participation.
The most important about why we listen is that it allows us to receive information that will give us later the possibility of taking the right decisions.
And, What prevents us from listening?
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